Welcome back to the conversation! Unlike the newsletter, which comes out about once a month (because the pandemic and self-care are very real), this will be a space where Founder & Creator Michaële and others share ‘stream of consciousness’ type thoughts about all things real talk.
This month, we’re talking about #gettingoutofyourownway and Rosie Myers knows a thing or two about the topic having just launched Resistance Fashion.
Read on to see what she had to say about the concept…
I truly think that we are our own biggest critic, hater, road-blocker, (whatever you want to call it)… we stand in our own way. We don’t always give ourselves the grace and kindness that we would show to our friends or a stranger. It is a daily practice for me to change my thoughts towards myself and decide to root for ME! That looks like refocusing my thoughts, taking a break and taking a walk, or doing a task I KNOW I can crush to give myself back some confidence. I have to fight myself every day to push out the thoughts that “I can’t” or that “I’m not good enough” It certainly isn’t an easy thing to push away but if I can’t figure out how to get out of my own way every day, I won’t move the needle on any progress.
Here are a few things that I do to remind myself of what I’m capable of:
- I love making lists. If I can write down at least 5-10 things that I can do that day that will help push me closer to my goals, I see traction and that increases my confidence in myself.
- Tackle one thing at a time. This is kind of similar to making a list but I try to focus on 1 thing and spend at least 1 hour focusing on that 1 task. I can get overwhelmed when I try to do multiple things at once and that’s when I start feeling inadequate.
- Celebrate your wins! Pop a bottle of Rosé, give yourself a manicure, or order your favorite take-out dinner. It doesn’t need to be anything extravagant and certainly, you don’t have to spend money every single time but it should be something that you love and makes you happy! I think it’s so important to celebrate even the small things in your business or the goals you are reaching for. Instead of focusing on how far I still need to go, I try to remember to celebrate how far I have come.
I truly believe that if we can figure out how to believe in ourselves the way that we believe in others or people we have never even met, we could do anything that we put our minds to. We have to figure out how to stay in our lane and worry about our own goals and dreams. I saw a meme this morning that said, “Don’t let your food get cold while you worry about what is on someone else’s plate.” This hit me so hard because I often miss out on what is on my own plate because I’m looking at or worried about what someone else is doing. If 2020 taught us anything, it’s this: Life is short, we can’t predict the future, and things could change at the drop of a hat. So why not bet on yourself and do the things you always wanted to do? Who cares if it fails, others don’t like it, or you lose out on some money? All the regret you might have if you don’t try it will be worse than all of these other things.
I’m inspired by my incredible group of friends that are doing amazing things but also pushing me and inspiring me to go all-in on my passions. I feel truly lucky to have people that are lifting me up as they climb and that I can turn around and do the same.
So get out of your own way and give yourself permission to try that thing, to get it wrong, but to also stand back up and try again! To me, that’s where life is lived and your happiness is found.
Watch as we dig a little deeper with Rosie!